Being a career mom is a rewarding yet challenging journey. Balancing work responsibilities with family life can often leave you feeling stretched thin and struggling to be present with your children. I catch myself reading an email and my toddler is yelling “mom” and I snap. It’s not her fault that I’m distracted so now the guilt sets in. However, with a few simple adjustments to your daily routine, you can create a stronger connection with your kids and cultivate cherished memories that will last a lifetime. Today we are going to talk about 5 things I’m doing right now to be more present with my children. (maybe they will help you too!)
01. Quality over Quantity
As a career mom, we get so few hours in a day to spend with our babies and that is often the thing we struggle with most. Bedtimes, extra-curriculars, and friends can cut into your time in whatever season you are in. But it’s not about how much time we spend with our little ones but rather the intention and attention we bring to those moments. Use my 5 block time blocking method to identify my AM and PM blocks that are strictly for family. In these blocks, make it a point to be fully present and engaged. No distractions, no multitasking – just pure undivided attention.
02. Put the Phone Down
That damn little computer is distracting and addicting in a way we don’t even realize. In today’s digital age, it’s so easy to get caught up in the constant stream of notifications and messages on our smartphones. However, constantly being glued to our screens can hinder our ability to fully engage with our kids. Its time to make a conscious effort to put the phone down and be fully present during designated quality time with your children. Commit to setting your phone to Focus Mode (blocks all the apps) during your AM and PM blocks which are meant to be spent with my family.
03. Ask Them About Their Day and Listen
Meaningful conversations are essential for building strong relationships with your children. When you ask your kids about their day, be genuinely interested in their experiences, thoughts, and emotions. Give them your undivided attention and actively listen to what they have to say. This not only shows them that you care, but it also creates a safe space for them to express themselves and share their joys or concerns.
04. Let Them Be Part of Everyday Tasks
Involving your children in everyday tasks not only helps lighten your load but also allows for quality bonding time. Engage your kids in age-appropriate household activities such as cooking, gardening, or organizing. This not only provides an opportunity for you to spend time together but also teaches them valuable life skills and fosters a sense of responsibility. My toddler always helps clear the table, follows us around with her toy vacuum and helps fold her laundry (in her own way). By including them in these tasks, you can create lasting memories while instilling a strong work ethic and a sense of contribution.
05. Wake Up Before They Do
Mornings can often be rushed and stressful, leaving little room for quality time. By waking up a bit earlier than your children, you can start your day on a calmer note and carve out precious moments of uninterrupted connection. Use this time to engage in activities that bring you joy or practice self-care. By prioritizing your own well-being, you’ll be better equipped to be present and fully engaged when your kids wake up.
Being a career mom doesn’t mean compromising on the quality of your relationship with your kiddos. By implementing these five simple tips – putting the phone down, complimenting your kids, asking them about their day and actively listening, involving them in everyday tasks, and waking up before they do – you can create a stronger bond and make lasting memories. Remember, it’s the small moments that matter the most, let’s make sure you are experiencing them!
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